· Discover and do things that help your spouse feel loved.

· Stay current. Don't let the list of unresolved problems grow.

· Tell your spouse your feelings, wants and needs.

· Ask questions expecting answers.

· Validate each other's issues and feelings. It really doesn't mean you have to agree.

· Treat each other as adults.

· Keep dating.

· Attend to your own health physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.

· Ask for and grant true forgiveness.

· Become a cheerleader for your spouse.

· Complement your spouse in front of others.

· Be ready to give if you expect to receive. But only give what you can afford.

· Talk to a friend who can hold you accountable to invest in your marriage.

· Refuse to indulge poisonous, critical thoughts about your spouse or marriage.

· Join or start a couple's group.

· Read a book on marriage with your spouse.

· Pursue a common interest/hobby with your spouse.

· Don’t tell your spouse what on this list they need to do. They are for you.